E-Harmony Auto Personalised Text

This is the personalised description of my cousin on e-harmony.  I thought it seemed fairly accurate for not only my cousin but maybe for myself also, and probably for a lot of other people out there. I just wonder how long these fairly detailed but generic descriptions can exist on dating websites.

It seems so relevant but hugely random at the same time, It’s like astrology in it’s nature, although maybe a little more educated due to the customer input. Interesting what a computer can come up with these days. It almost feels like you have a personal experience. Anyway here is what the computer spat out…

“You may be a kind person at heart. You may care deeply about the people close to you. You may even know how to give compliments and praise achievements and express admiration for what others believe. All this may be true. But you are often more critical than many people, more often you find yourself in contradiction to what others are saying rather than searching for ways to agree. You have somewhere in you a vocabulary of kindness but to get to it many times you have to flip past a page or two of retorts and “yes, but”s and “on the other hand”s.

You may want to think about why you talk so bluntly. Perhaps you were raised in the midst of a verbal war: your parents or siblings or the gang you grew up with teased and taunted and argued and picked away at any and everyone’s self-esteem. Maybe you just love the art of debate and take real pleasure in making sure every side of an argument is discussed. Or it could be that you just don’t like some people and you use language the way other people used bricks, to build walls between you and your neighbors. It might be worth sorting out where your tendency to use rather confrontive language comes from.

Look, this doesn’t mean you’re a mean person. The main issue for you is likely how this tendency impacts your relationships. If you are surrounded with people like you who love the art of skillful verbal confrontation all may he well. But if you do find that many relationships you valued were lost because of sharp words you must wonder if there is something you could change. There’s clearly a kind person in there who knows how to express affection and encouragement and offer up a good word even in awkward moments. The more you find this side of yourself the more likely you are to have friends who stay close, a partner who trusts you and the mutual respect that comes when we speak gently and kindly to people we care about.”

As you can see it’s a fairly generic spiel of generated text, but it’s personalised and specific to the individual user, it has added a real personal level to the eharmony experience, I find it massively helpful to myself and to my cousin, (more to myself as I filled in his profile for him) and it has to a certain extent “shown off their technology”.I would expect to be receiving this level of technological expertise in the future from other websites. It’s not massively complicated to add this kind of tool to your website. And it adds a new level to user experience that is not always achievable through standard advertising methods.

Adding to all that, I think I might take the advice in my blog posts that eharmony suggests.  I can be quick to retort and add sharp comments from time to time. But there is a kind and helpful person in there trying to break through  Anyway I’ve gone hugely off topic now. Ladies my cousin is on eharmony! roll up roll up.